December 8th 2010
Well it is just 17days till Christmas. Wonderful time of the year – really it is. But OH how it has changed – or have we changed. I am clearly at the end of the Baby Boomer Cycle, before generations X, Y and Painful (all 14-20yr olds) — so my perspective on Christmas has to be somewhat based on my age and “status” in life. Oh and Christmas is interchangeable with “Holidays”. Nothing Political here – each to his own.
Family, faith and/or beliefs certainly also play a role in this time of year – but I am convinced that our life experiences and upbringing have the most impact. NOTE I am an only child, Lisa is an Only Child – so we by definition have less family to spend time with.
I have experienced 3 phases to my feelings about “the season” – my, we have a lot of possible terms to use to describe Thanksgiving t0 New Years. The Season, The Holidays, Christmas Time etc… enough of that.
The Phases – The Kid phase – remember when as a child this time of year held much more wonder and excitement – everything from events at school, to family events – seeing ole Uncle Ralph with a cigarette hanging from his lip and a can of PBR in his hand to Grandma’s cookies. My mom’s tree was all Red Lights, I loved it, but can you imagine. Not the little lights we use today, no no the big, nightlight size ones. OMG don’t get me started on Christmas Lights, NOW IT IS LED Lights – $150 it cost me to put those damn things on our tree this year.
OK back to the phases – The child phase for me lasted fairly long- till about 16 I guess, then I entered phase 2 – where I was moving from my family to friends, girlfriends family, college etc…. and this phase of going from place to place to place to place continued on through the birth of my kids, up to about 2 years ago. I call this the YEARS OF EXCESS – going and going, buying and buying – fighting with her mother, my mother, my wife etc… what is it about “Who has family time when” – OMG My mother felt like it was a competition with my mother in law as to who had Christmas Dinner when. Finally ENOUGH! Bring on Phase 3.
Wow what happen to go, go, go, buy, buy, buy, more lights, more gifts, more more more – It just went away. Thank you! Is it because my kids are entering Phase 2 and thus not as present, I don’t think that is all of it – they seem less likely to get caught up in the same Phase 2 as we experienced. I believe a couple of things have happened, one good, one less so.
First I see that core families have become more fractured and that is not good. The definition of “Core Family” is and has changed, people live further apart, divorces etc… The second thing I see, is it is less about all the go, go, go and buy, buy, buy and more about a simpler “Family and Friends” time — that ain’t all bad. I have that melancholy feeling about the past at times – but look forward to future Holiday Times.
Whatever your experiences have been and are today – Step back and enjoy your family and friends and the FOOD! I work each year to make the Holiday Meal wonderful, BUT Easier. It takes some planning and even some practice, but it can be done in a manner that you are not in the kitchen for 2 days, the dinner table for 20 minutes and the sink for 4 hours after. I also fight the Turkey and Ham syndrome. Don’t get me wrong, I am likely to smoke a turkey and buy a nice ham, but that ain’t dinner — that is Sandwich makings. This year it is Magret Duck, with a Cherry, Balsamic Reduction, Roasted Root Vegetables and my Butternut Squash Soup. Simple, Elegant and DIFFERENT!
OH and by the way if you have read my “STUFF” blog – the “STUFF” is winning! Alas 2011 is another year! Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, etc….. On behalf of Lisa, Myself, our Family and the Satchmo’s Team!!!!


